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Inner Child – You’re Free to be Different

The inner child is a term referring to a concept in psychology that suggests that there is a part of us that is still childlike, vulnerable, and in need of love and attention. It is the part that holds our earliest memories, beliefs, and emotions, and can influence our behaviors, thoughts, and feelings as adults.

Healing Your Inner Child

Inner child healing is a process that involves identifying and addressing the emotional wounds and unresolved issues from childhood that continue to affect us as adults. The ability to acknowledge your inner child is the beginning to healing.

Imagine yourself as a kid and notice the feelings and thoughts that come into mind when you see her/him. Begin to be present and listen. Stand up for yourself, if you feel you are being mistreated, set boundaries where walls aren’t formed but respect your limits, cut out toxic relationships to affirm control and show your inner child that your adult self is capable of protecting itself now!

Adulting does not mean suppressing out needs by being driven by work and life expectations and continue to do what we don’t want to do. Acknowledging your inner child allows you to have a better grip and understanding of your behaviors and coping mechanisms. In order to replace negative and unhealthy patterns, we need to embrace our old selves and come to reality of who we are now; then go forth and letting go by unlearning and relearning. Accept the old and bring on the new with grace and gratitude.

Moving Forward - Affirmations

“I’ll Prove You Deserved Better” – know your worth

  • Psalms 139: 14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made…” Genesis 1:27 “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them” 1 Peter 2:9 “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”


“I’ll Love and Accept You” – love and take care of yourself first

  • “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:31) Spread the overflow of love onto others once you ate and received for yourself. Or else it’ll lead to burn out.


“I’ll Hear You Out” – properly handling emotions

  • Instead of suppressing your emotions and having outbursts, working through problems without shaming your inner child for what it feels or how it reacts soothes the wounds. Be present and allow space where you can fully tend to your needs.


“I’ll forgive you” – let go and be responsible

  • Children have the tendency to immediately blame themselves and think everything is happening because of them. Acknowledge and let go of what you cannot control and be responsible for the things you can control.

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